As the Joyce Brothers once said:

“Marriage is not just a spiritual communion; it is also remembering to take out the trash.”

After 6 years of married life together, we reckon you’ll probably resonate with that. Because after the honeymoon period of the first few years - where you call each other cute nicknames, and probably still spoon at night - things begin to settle into a different rhythm.

It’s still just as special, mind. In these years, you both develop a comfortable closeness, the kind of companionship you read in books and see in your parents.

So, in these later years, you’ve got even less of an excuse to let an anniversary go by un-celebrated.

Anniversaries are all about celebrating your achievements - the grand events, and all the little wins that make up each day - as a couple. So, give your other half a gift that shows them how much they mean to you.

To help you make your sixth wedding anniversary a day to remember, our experts have shared their top tips for choosing anniversary gifts. These include traditional gift ideas, advice for choosing gifts based on the modern theme, and a whistle-stop tour of the history surrounding these themes.

The history of 6 year wedding anniversaries - why candy?

Ever stopped to wonder why exactly we give themed wedding gifts every year?

Well, the practice of giving each wedding anniversary a theme started during the Victorian period.

Then, the popular themes were immortalised by Emily Post’s book Etiquette, first published in 1922. This book cemented the themes for each anniversary, and provided an ‘official’ list for loved-up couples to follow.

However, it missed out a number of key anniversaries, including years 2, 3 and 4, and every anniversary in between years 5 and 10.

So, Post’s original list was expanded by The American National Retail Jeweler Association in 1937. It was at this point that the theme for year 6 was added to the official list.

Traditional gift ideas for your 6th wedding anniversary

For your sixth wedding anniversary, the theme of the day is sweets.

It’s definitely one of the more unusual themes, but you can have lots of fun with it! After all, who doesn’t enjoy a sweet?

You could buy a big box of their favourite flavours, find a bag of something out of the ordinary, or even buy a sweet-making experience for you to enjoy together. The world is your oyster! (or gobstopper, if you will).

To help you get the search started, here are some of our favourite ideas for 6th wedding anniversary gifts:

  • Create your own sweet jar
  • Letterbox Pick n Mix
  • Personalised chocolate message
  • Jelly Belly’s Cocktail jelly beans
  • The Fudge Kitchen offers an at-home fudge making kit. Or, you could go one step further, and book one of their fudge making experiences for you both to enjoy.

Important note: the theme for 6th wedding anniversaries in the UK is candy. However, it’s a different theme for our friends across the pond. In America, the theme for the 6th wedding anniversary is Iron - be careful not to get the two mixed up!

Where did modern wedding gift themes come from?

Interestingly, wooden gifts have been a tradition for the 5th wedding anniversary for 100 years. But according to the modern list, wood is the new theme for the 6th wedding anniversary.

The difference between ‘modern’ and ‘traditional’ themes may be slightly confusing, but you can choose whichever list appeals most to you.

The modern list was created to give couples an alternative to traditional wedding anniversary gift themes - many of which were perceived as outdated, difficult to buy, or less relevant to 21st century homes.

So, a modern list was created to give couples the choice of more relevant gift themes, while still enjoying the fun of buying romantic gifts to match the universal theme.

If you’re on the lookout for a modern wooden anniversary gift, here are a few of our top anniversary present tips:

  1. Get it personalised. Wood is easy to personalise, and many online gift shops and artisan creators offer this service. Or, if this isn’t an option, you could buy a pyrography kit and do it yourself!
  2. Think about what they’ll actually need. You could choose a wooden clock to go on their desk, coasters for your new table, or a display case for your wine collection. Either way, try to think of something that they’ll appreciate and use.
  3. Find a piece that matches their style. Wood is an extremely versatile material, and so it comes in a huge range of different colours, styles and designs.
  4. Keep an eye out for something a little out of the ordinary. You’ll win extra bonus points for thoughtfulness.
  5. Don’t spend a fortune! It might sound like we’re advocating being a cheapskate, but this tradition is all about giving small, thoughtful gifts to build up a home together. So going OTT would mean that you sort of miss the mark.

And there you have it - everything you could possibly need to knock your 6th wedding anniversary out of the park.

We adore themed anniversary gifts. Through this shared theme, they unite your special day with the celebrations of countless other happy couples. At the same time, the room for interpretation within it gives you both the chance to be creative and sentimental.

Whether it’s having a shared obsession with jelly strawberries, or remembering a day out making fudge together, it’s a wonderful opportunity to celebrate everything that makes your connection unique.